Well who woulda thunk it... right... there's bad boys, there's good boys, there's socially stunted boys, there are unavailable boys and then there is the elusive MAN of your dreams. In my case... Matt Damon... or so I have coined him... Mattie. Loves his wife and family, smart, dedicated to his craft, good friend, well spoken, sense of humor... oh the list keeps going. No offense boys, but unless you just played opposite Morgan Freeman with a South African accent in Invictus... you're not quite MATTIE!
I like to think there is a real version of a knight in shining armor (joking aside about Mattie), but no luck YET! I have faith, that the right one is out there and of course, I just may be forced to kiss a few frogs to find him.
Let's look at things from a positive stand point - there are so many things that are fun about the male friends us girls have... HUMOR is a big one for me, anyone can make you feel like crap, but the ones that can make you laugh, RARE!!! and I mean the ones that truly make your side hurt from laughing so hard. The ones that help you when you need it whether that is lending a hand or holding it, so kind and they remind you of chivalry. Or how about the ones that make you think and don't let you get lazy and focus on the bad things, they sort of move your forward even if you are kicking and screaming... I ALWAYS appreciate that! Then there are the ones that call you on your crap, the ones that don't let you get away with status quo, those are the ones that will be there for the long haul.
So what about the elusive man, the one you hold onto, what does he have? He has your heart, mind and soul and does everything to earn, protect and cherish it. There is no one size fits all, there is the one that feels right to you. The trick is (I think) you have to do the same for him.
In this day and age, anyone "good" is few and far between. The trick is always separating the wheat from the chaff. Use friends (whether local or not so local) and family to help interview. Because it takes a village to raise a child. And as we grow in love, we are truly children until we actually learn to finally see what we are supposed to have been able to see the whole time.
ReplyDeleteBut then again, I'm preaching to the choir aren't I?
We miss you and hope you do finally find your "Mattie".
There's always someone pulling for you. You've got a great support system. Keep relying on them and they'll keep on supporting you.